Why Morning Sex ?

Reality of Morning Sex

morning sex is one of those things that sound good in theory…. 

guy wakes up with an extremely hard erection- laying right there together in bed…. In reality… his penis is hard naturally (not from being sexually aroused)- 

sure he will want to follow his erection into her pussy…. 

but first he will have to urinate- after that his erection will be gone= 

having not been turned on / aroused in the right way… without the dick leading the way- the motivation to take the time for foreplay so she can enjoy it… and then getting him aroused properly afterwards- ITS JUST NOT WHAT IS SEEMS

Love Poems

Rhyming Relationship Reality 

Sexuality Of A Sex Therapist (poem)

"I’m not promiscuous 

Can’t call me prude 

Enjoying sex

Sensual not lewd 

These are the secrets

To make it feel great

Explore your body

Play - masturbate

Try everything

Know what to do

make it count 

Give him a clue

Never a favor 

It’s not a game

Always for pleasure

Never the same

I can be naughty 

Venture out of the bed

But when I go down

Keep your hands off of my head

Be your orgasm expert

Must always feel right 

Keep in him on track

Lick suck nibble bite

Never be passive

 Ladies cum first 

He must patient

Rushing is worst

vulnerable intimate 

Not being alone

Give yourself over

 scream yell & moan

Man is stronger 

the dominant role 

it doens’t matter 

She’s still in control

Beautiful sexy

No written plan

Feeling feminine 

In the arms of a man"

Tamar Gass (Tamara)

Women Can't Keep Sex Casual

It's Not Casual For Her

Poem By: Tamar Gass

No casual sex for women

The feelings they deny

She only fools herself 

But he's sure to let her try

Just cause he wants you

Doesn’t tell you how he feels

He'll say the right things

Don’t assume they all are real

If he wants to sleep with you

Don’t assume you are 'the one'

You may want commitment

While he’s just having fun

It may seem he’s listening

Without caring what you say

If he goes to sleep with you

Don’t assume that he will stay

Just cause he's sweet 

Don’t assume he has respect

Just cause he fulfills your needs

Doesn’t means he is perfect

Making you feel sexy

Means nothing if your sleezy

Having sex all the time

Only means that you're easy

You can do all he wants

Don’t assume he’s satisfied

Why should he work for it

When you always have complied

Don’t just give it all away

If you want him to adore

Pretending it is casual

Makes you easy to ignore

Just cause he likes it

And shows you some affection

Casual means he's single

Prepare for the rejection

You dont have to learn the hard way

Just remember this for life

If you don’t respect yourself

You’ll never be his wife

Tamar Gass 

SEE MORE OF MY POEMS AT

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Online Relationship Coaching

Online Relationship Coach

Im an American sex therapist who does online life / relationship coaching.
Supporting, advising, coaching, mentoring, mediating, couples, families, individuals...
- on their personal relationships. 

For more info. see my website http://IntimacySpecialist.wix.com/Love-Life-Coach 

Benefits Of Adult Toys

Discover Yourself With A Vibrator 

Every woman should own at least one vibrator- 

...Your sex life will suffer without it.

Im not saying that a toy can substitute  for a man… a vibrator is the best way to figure out what you need to climax and orgasm… Unlike men, women don't orgasm as easily. Without knowing exactly how to satisfy yourself, your not going to be able to be satisfied by a man. 

The more familiar she is with each stage leading to the climax- the easier she will be able to experience these stages with a partner.

When masturbating, many women reach the climax without continuing through to the orgasm. It is not uncommon that they mistake the climax for the orgasm…

Experiencing how to get the vagina in an aroused state (erect) is crucial to sexual satisfaction.

A sex toy will help you to know where you want to be touched inside and out…

Women cannot expect to lay there are experience pleasure form sex…

 Just as men do, you have to adjust and move your body a little to make sure the stimulation is in the right spot…

 Would a man ever lay back and let you try to have sex with him while he is limp?

 When erect would he just let you do 100%opf the work? 

No- even if you are on top, he is going to make sure that the stimulation and speed is to  his liking… 

Women must do the same…  A toy can help you figure this out

For Erection Affection (poem)

Erection Affection 

Your penis doesn't lead the way

Im not under its control

I dont think of it every day

Its not the leading role

I know it want my attention

the moment it gets hard

no need to remind or mention

pressure puts me on guard

it may take over your brain

but it cant take over mine

You have to keep it tame

Wait for the right time

Dick alone is no turn on

Arousing me takes more

I wont hurry before its gone

that race I wont endure

I've received your invitation

Persisting brings rejection

Don't let me see expectation

to get affection for your erection

- Tamar Gass

For More of my poems

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Blow Job Benefit

He Needs Blow Jobs

In an intimate relationship it's important to give blow jobs.

receiving oral sex is the act that allows you to be the most exposed and vulnerable with your partner.... there are not many ways for a man to let go and surrender when it comes to sex...
while receiving a blow job he is completely vulnerable...
 being exposed and vulnerable with someone is the key to sexual excitement and intimacy-
when you cannot feel vulnerable anymore, sex is boring

Post by Relationship Insights and Advise.

Female Beauty (Rhyming Poem)

The more sex the better

Many Lovers Vs. Few Lovers

To be a good lover and partner in a relationship, it is good  to have multiple sexual partners throughout your life. I would be more turned off by a man with little sexual partners, compared to a man who had sex with many different women.

Personal Sexual History

From the time i lost my virginity at 16, I have had about 6 boyfriends in which the sexual relationship lasted between 1-6 years.

During these relationships I had sex quite often. To be more specific, during the first months of the relationships i think its safe to say we would have sex at least once every day that we saw each other (approximately 4-5 days a week)… just as most other relationships, as the 'honeymoon' phase wore off… sex occurred a little less often.

Between these long-term relationships I dated different guys until I dated the one who became the next boyfriend. 

I was not into sex on the first date…
If the next few dates went well we would be having sex with each other which contributed to determining the connection and attraction needed to be worthy of being my boyfriend.
Although going on dates allows you to still be single, it was common for me to stop dating others when dating one guy became sexual.

Not Into Giving BJs

Don't Cum In My Mouth 

Take it out before she has to spit or swallow

in my personal experience and professional experience with clients,

when a woman refuses to let her man cum in her mouth, 

its because she doesnt like it (obviously)…. 

when a woman asks a man to inform her before he cums from a BJ- and she insits he take it out of her mouth and cum on her breasts (or anywhere else but in her mouth)... the issue is that she is not really wanting to give the BJ- 

The main reason for her not being into doing it is she is NOT sexually aroused or pleasured as she should be. 


this is why women must always cum first. 
Unlike a man- a women can cum multiple times - 
it is best for the pleasure of the man and the woman when she cums first before continuing his pleasure or sex

its not necessary to make her cum first every time, but at least if she knows you are able to make her cum (without your disk)… she will want you more...

Casual Sex Poem

It's Not Casual For Her

No casual sex for women

The feelings they deny

She only fools herself

But he's sure to let her try

Just cause he wants you

Doesn’t tell you how he feels

He'll say the right things

Don’t assume they all are real

If he wants to sleep with you

Don’t assume you are 'the one'

You may want commitment

While he’s just having fun

It may seem he’s listening

Without caring what you say

If he goes to sleep with you

Don’t assume that he will stay

Just cause he's sweet 

Don’t assume he has respect

Just cause he fulfills your needs

Doesn’t means he is perfect

Making you feel sexy

Means nothing if your sleezy

Having sex all the time

Only means that you're easy

You can do all he wants

Don’t assume he’s satisfied

Why should he work for it

When you always have complied

Don’t just give it all away

If you want him to adore

Pretending it is casual

Makes you easy to ignore

Just cause he likes it

And shows you some affection

Casual means he's  single

Prepare for the rejection

You dont have to learn the hard way

Just remember this for life

If you don’t respect yourself

You’ll never be his wife

Tamar Gass

Rejected by A Sex Therapist

Dating A Sex Therapist

Just cause I'm a sex therapist doesn't make me easier. 
Just cause i love sex doesn't mean I want it from every random guy who wants me. 
Just cause i only have good sex doesn't mean it would be good with every guy
.... All this means that I'm only sexual with the right men for the right reasons who knows how to turn me on and equally satisfy me. 

As an expert, i dont have to try it to know if he is the right guy
... The wrong guys cannot turn on a sex therapist at all. 

Sex is Best With A Virgin or Non-Virgin

When in a relationship, I believe in guiding and teaching your partner, as well as learning from them… However, there must be some underlying sexual experience to start with.
With a virgin, how could an experienced woman feel submissive or vulnerable… there is no awkward excitement or exchange of growth… all the excitement and growth and pleasure is 1 sided… 
i am not going to have bad sex, or even mediocre sex…
I am not turned on by a boy that cannot handle me. I am not going to compromise my sexual pleasure to be someone's teacher…
therefore- I am happy to do without it… Im just not attracted to virgins. 
People generally gain sex experience through their 20's… with partners at/near their level. Good experience comes from trial and error with multiple relationships…

Good Sex Rhyme

My Mr. Right (Rhyming Poem)

Rhyming Mr. Right

""The perfect guy is hard to find:

Funny, smart, gracious, kind…

makes me challenged & inspired…

…Feeling sexy & desired

Hard but gentle at the core

His imperfections I adore

Treats me with love & respect

Feels the need to protect

Excellent communication

Patient with my frustration 

Always will have my back

keeps each other on track

Open-minded, assertive, wise

Wipes the tears from my eyes

Will never sleep while in a fight

Doesn’t have to be right

Our arguments make us grow

Adjustable, goes with the flow

Appreciates the things I do

loyal, supportive, real & true

back and forth stimulation

General female consideration

Intense passion & chemistry

brings comfort & serenity

Uncontrollable attraction

sexual tension & satisfaction

Attraction that can’t be denied

Feeling loved & satisfied """

-By: Tamar Gass

Sexperience Online As A Sex Therapist

Sex Therapy Online Vs. Internet Hazards

Having brought my practice online, one of the new challenges are dealing with the perverts, horny boys, and desperate men that comes with the internet.
As a woman talking about sex online, I would be naïve to think I could avoid these guys.

The more my online following increases, the more guys I will have to reject..

















The way most of these guys approach me to fulfil their fantasy or be their girlfriend is such a turn off it made me realize that I actually can help them get what they want.





This is where I got the idea to offer online sessions/coaching for guys on how to get girls to want them.

How to seduce, please, interact, attract, interest, and satisfy women.

I offer a live interactive group session, private coaching sessions and even full make-overs (to become a ladies man and get a girl).

 

How To Handcuff Him

Spicing Up Your Sex Life With Handcuffs

always entertain eachothers sexual desires to maintain an intimate connection. sexual intimacy and excitement come from feeling vulnerable and exposed with eachother.... (like the nerves from the beginning, or a one night stand, or new toy, etc)...

with men its not as easy to get them in a vulnerable position (especially in longer relationships)
as a sex therapist, focussed on intimacy...
 i help many couples (online and in person) with enhancing intimate connection and satisfaction...
in my experience... the main reason men cheat is when they are looking for that excitement (vulnerable sexual feeling)
when tying up your partner...
- know what your dioing... the idea is to make them 'victim to the pleasure'....
-its all about the tease.... go slow... use yout breath.. lips.. tongue... hands
    for example... if you take his penis in your mouth... don't just close your lips around it right away,,,, let him feel your breath on it...
think of it like- how to make him want it to much to handle it
-don't try to make him cum while he is tied up...
try to make him want to break out of the restraints to have his way with you...
use soft light touch... even when you kiss him.... don't just connect lips right away... tease him by getting close... and pulling back
make him feel a little nervous....
if your comfortable with it.... lick under his testicles....

tell him to watch you while you work your way between his legs...
but men are very visual... make him watch you as you get closer

Post by Relationship Insights and Advise.

Sexpert's Favorite Position

My Favourite Positions

women are not able to experience a complete orgasm in any position where they have to support their weight with their legs…

 

Generally speaking, the best position is missionary… boring as it may seem, it is the most intimate and easiest for her to orgasm. In addition, with eye contact and being face to face, sexual communication is easier which enhances the connection, arousal, & experience

I think Most women like doggy style, cause men like it…
there are better positions to get the same deep penetration…
women are extremely unlikely to orgasm in any position that requires them to supporttheir body weight with their legs…
However doggy style, standing, riding, etc are good for other reasons and  makes a good transitional position

personally, ill go through the missionary variations… flat to having my legs on his shoulders… but i always end it with my head hanging upside-down off the edge of the bed… best way to get it deep and the blood rushing to the head makes for best orgasm

A sex swing is a way to do more positions without the the girl havingto use her legs to support her weight (so she can orgasm)… mobilityis also easier- and obviously it is a sexier situation

My View On The Penis

Does Size Really Matter To Women ?

Sex Expert shares the real female perspective of "THE PENIS".. check it out

Erotic Poem

Rhyming Sexual Fantasy

By: Tamar Gass

 

This is the Fantasy in my head... Candle-light, together in bed.... ...take off my dress... 
Fondle my breasts.... 
Dirty whispers are said.... 

A fantasy like this... 
All over my body you kiss 
Every touch satisfies 
Gazing into my eyes 
Exposed submissiveness 

My arousing fantasy... 
Nobody matters but you and me.... 
Your gentle touch... 
... is nearly too much 
overwhelming intensity... 

Feel my fantasy rejuvenation 
Fall week to desired temptation 
Start with your tongue 
Flick & lick, make me cum 
Prepare me for rough penetration 

Along for the fantasy ride 
Lay me down and open me wide 
Take time to explore 
Spread me open more 
Look in me, feel me inside 

Fantasizing of you in control 
Take me away, mind, body & sole... 
Make me feel hot 
Hurt me when I say stop 
Forced by your dominant role... 

Fantasy without any restrain 
Pleasure along with pain 
Make it extreme 
Hold me down when I scream 
Composure, I cannot contain 

An arousing fantasy fornication 
Intense sexual sensation 
Orgasms back to back 
Surrendered when you attacked 
Victim to bliss-relaxation 

By: Tamara Nicole

See more at  http://sincerely--tamara.tumblr.com

How A Sexpert Sees Sex

Sex Expert Vs. Sex Life

Being Sexual Doesn't Make Me Slutty

Today I see sex as one of life's greatest pleasures. People should get the absolute most out of their sex life to have a happier, healthier, satisfying, fulfilling, rewarding life.

My personal views on sex and my sex life today
Just because I'm a sex expert and do coaching on how to pleasure each other sexually and how to have the most satisfying sex life doesn't mean that I am easier when it comes to sex. Along with people asking for my advice support and insights; many guys proposition me for sex or to entertain them in an erotic way.

Branching out onto the Internet obviously I expect this kind of attention, I would foolish to think it wouldn't happen considering the topic of my field.

Let me start by settling this…
Yes I love sex, yes I openly discussed sex and help people with their sexual experience. However I love sex so much that I would never have bad sex. I would never even settle for okay Sex. I would rather have no sex then have bad sex.
Being a sex therapist doesn't make me easier, it actually means I know exactly what I want and I appreciate myself andsex so much that I would never settle for less. 

It means that I can determine quite quickly when a guy is not going to be able to sexually satisfy me. I don't need to try it to figure out that I won't like it.

 I will only have sex with the right person for the right reasons at the right time.